2008/10/13

Balancing play and study time setting boundaries

One of the joys of being a child is having time to play. Playing is
important in child development
for a couple of reasons. It gives time for the body to decompress from
the stress of an active
schedule. It also reminds a child that all of life isn't about work that
there is fun to be had also
and gives them something to look forward to for when their work is done.
However, it's
important to find a balance between the work that needs to be done and
the play that we want to
do. As parents we can help our children learn how to balance the two and
make sure that they are
getting enough of both to have a healthy development.

The first thing we can do is sit them down and talk to them about
priorities. Play is fun and
important but getting our work done has to come first. The decisions
that we make as children
have consequences that can affect us for the rest of our lives and most
of the time children don't
understand that unless we take the time to explain it to them. They
don't understand that a good
education is the foundation to making a start in life and that they will
need that education later on
to do things in life.

We can also make studying more fun for them. Set up a reward system for
grades where studying
and doing good on their grades can help them achieve rewards. There are
a couple of ways to do
this the first is to set up a sticker board where each hour of study
time and every good grade gets
them a sticker and after so many stickers they can have a reward.
Another way to set this up is to
use a points system. In a points system studying and tests are both
worth a certain amount of
points those points can be used towards special privileges or rewards.
Really there's no limit to
the number of things that can be set up with these systems. It's all a
matter of imagination and
what the parent is trying to achieve.

Another method is the punishment and reward method. In this method if
the child does not
complete their work or get bad grades then things are taken away from
them. The things taken
away can be either physical things or loss of privileges. The reward is
that they are allowed to do
their normal play activities. This encourages the child to get their
work done on time so that they
can move on to more enjoyable activities. This effective for some
children but not for others.

These are just a few of the many methods used for balancing play and
study time. What works
for one child may not work with another child and care should be taken
to make sure that the
plan used is tailored to the individual so that it actually works.
Sometimes it's even necessary to
use different methods within the same family of children. As parents we
should look at all the
options before we decide what we want to use. If something doesn't work
then it's time to look
at another method because it's a waste of time to continue using a
method that is not effective.