tools to succeed in life. One
of these tools is knowing how to balance things that need to be done.
This especially important
as our children get older and want to participate in school activities.
We want them to be able to
do these activities but at the same time school work is important to
their future and we don't
want them to neglect it. It's possible for them to learn to balance both
and be able to handle
being active.
One thing that helps is to make sure that your child is only signing up
for things that they can
handle. Nothing is accomplished by taking on activities that they have
no way to complete. This
can have a serious negative affect on their self esteem when they aren't
able to complete things.
It's better to avoid problems by planning ahead and helping them to only
sign up for the things
that they can handle. It may seem harsh and counter productive but it's
not a bad thing to teach
our children to be realistic about their abilities as they reach for the
stars.
The next thing we can do is teach them how to manage their time
effectively. The time to
complete activities and homework has to come from somewhere and there
still has to be time for
things like eating and sleeping. We can facilitate time management by
posting a calendar that
has spots for time during the day and letting our children schedule in
their activities so they
know exactly where they have to be and when. We should help them but as
they get older it's
important to let them do most of the scheduling themselves so that they
learn responsibility that
will help them later in life. Sometimes they'll make mistakes and that's
okay also because we
learn through making mistakes. It's how we handle those mistakes and
move on from them that
helps us grow as people and move on in our lives.
One of the most important things that we can do to help them is to teach
them how important the
schoolwork is to them. It's easy to get caught up in our activities and
want to focus just on them
so sometimes it's necessary for the parent to step in and redirect focus
just a little bit. As much
as we would like to believe that our child is the next big sports star
or chess champion it's so rare
that it actually happens that we need them to have the education as a
back up. A good education
is important because it give them something to use when they get older.
It's not that we should
neglect activities outside of school as not being important but we have
to teach them the
importance of balancing both aspects of their time in school.
All of these things work together to help our children find time for
both school work and
activities. We're our childs biggest supporters and their first role
models so it's up to us to set
these examples. This means that sometimes we have to take the initiative
to talk to them about
things and to step in when we see problems developing that are too big
for them to handle on
their own.